{The Twelve Days of Christmas} Day10

{This post is part of a series on celebrating The Twelve Days of Christmas.}

Being a parent means that your days seldom go “as planned.” There’s always the potential for chaos on a scale ranging from large to small. And that’s o.k. That’s part of the package. That’s the fine print.

And then there’s the addendum at the bottom of the contract we parents of special needs kids are issued– the line that promises that there are no average days, that there is just about a zero chance for routine as we once knew it.

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{The Twelve Days of Christmas} Day3

{This post is part of a series on celebrating The Twelve Days of Christmas.}

As I mentioned yesterday, we’re moving.

Again.

We just did this back in August. While everyone is actually thrilled to be moving back “home” (to the townhouse we’ve inhabited since 2003), no one is happy to be loading boxes, disassembling bed frames, and lugging linens. As a matter of fact, Jack, our ingenious 11 year-old, has been brainstorming ways to make future relocations easier by means of teleporting and dehydration guns.

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{The Twelve Days of Christmas} Day2

{This post is part of a series on celebrating The Twelve Days of Christmas.}

As I write this, one of my sons is vacuuming up the crumbs from morning’s birthday celebration (happy birthday, Simon!) and my husband is loading boxes into our station wagon and setting out to pick up our moving truck. The newly-minted one year-old is trying to wrestle open the bulk flour bin, my preschoolers are dragging boots and winter coats on to head outside, my teenagers are finishing packing their belongings, the dog needs to be let out, and my kindergartener is hunting for a lost Lego.

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{The Twelve Days of Christmas} Day 1

{This post is part of a series on celebrating The Twelve Days of Christmas.}

The BIG day. The Incarnation. The moment the promise of eight thousand years was fulfilled, and our path to salvation opened.

We celebrated with gifts, with laughter, with reflection, with joy, with quiet moments of soaking in blessing.

We talked about what it meant, all of it. The stable. The birth. The moments that followed. The conversation was balm to a Momma’s heart.

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The Twelve Days of Christmas

For 24 days, we focus on preparing our hearts and homes for the fulfillment that is Christmas Day: the arrival of the promised Messiah. We study the steps from the Fall and God’s vow not to leave us wandering outside of his presence all the way to a stable and a teenage mother birthing the Son of God in the same blood and the same pain as every mother before her or after her has experienced. Advent is profound; Christmas is awe-inspiring.

And then, for modern followers of Christ, it is gone.

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Raising kids with a global perspective part 1 {Why It Matters}

One of the first questions (rightly so) we get from folks who hear about our family’s move to Nepal centers around our children. Do your kids want to go? The follow up is almost guaranteed: Aren’t they going to miss being here?

And while the answer to the second question is pretty easily summed up (“Of course! We’re all going to miss certain things about home.”) that first question is usually a bit harder to explain. See, even before we were called to full-time ministry, our family culture reached far beyond the confines of the United States. We were purposeful in cultivating an appreciation for the entire menu of world cultures in our children. The next post in this series will delve into the how, but today, let’s look at the why.

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The greatest gift

Money is tight here this Christmas season. We’re gearing up for yet another move, the kids’ clothing needs seem to be multiplying like gremlins, and the list of needs is far more pressing than the wants. We’ve scaled back wherever possible to make the pinch a little less pinchy, and honestly feel blessed that we’ve had leeway to do so.

One of the things you won’t find under our tree this year are gifts from Christopher and I to one another. We’ve exchanged sporadically in the past, but in all truth, we entered the season of “if you need it, buy it” long ago, and neither of us is keen on making purchases just to fulfill an obligatory gift exchange. This year, there was an understood moment of “we can’t afford it, sorry.” Neither of us was hurt or offended. It is what it is and that’s o.k.

Actually, it’s better than o.k. Seasons of financial strain always bless me with the reminder that I could be out there making a paycheck. I am, after all, a college graduate with some reasonable skills. I know the current job market is tough, but there’s something out there for a woman willing to do whatever it takes to lift the burden of sole provider off her husband’s shoulders. I could be a substitute teacher. I could work in a daycare center. I could answer phones at a doctor’s office.

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On risk

We’re on pox watch here, awaiting the arrival of round three in the Great Chicken Pox Epidemic of 2013. In a lot of ways, it’s the perfect way to end a year that has challenged the notion that we are to “give thanks in all circumstances.” We’ve seen death, flood, and sickness these past few months. The only things left are… well, I’m not going to say. Because frankly I’d just rather not.

Last Man Girl Standing in the pox face off is, remarkably, Birdie. Somehow, her allergy-challenged immune system is holding strong, warding off the virus that has an impressive 90% infection rate. I admit that at this point we’re all beginning to wish she’d just get it already. I mean, seriously? The girl has a 90% chance of coming down with it. Let’s just do this thing and move on, people.

I waited years for my kids to catch the “wild” chicken pox, having eschewed the vaccination in favor of natural immunity. Like many others, I’m fairly skeptical of the public health system’s recommendations in terms of their effect on personal health. I get why it’s in the best interest of a general population to pursue herd immunity. However, I’m not charged with overseeing the general population; my goal is to manage (in asmuch as I am capable) the general health of the individual members of my family. With that in mind, we follow a selective, delayed schedule that makes sense for our family and its unique needs– like traveling to developing nations, and all the health risks that entails.

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Dangerous

Homeschooling is dangerous.

The grocery store clerk, your mother, the woman at church who teaches 6th grade at the public school … they’ve all been telling you this for years.

I’m here to tell you that they’re right. Homeschooling is not to be taken lightly. It’s not a choice to be made flippantly. It’s not something you can just do, or not do.

No. Homeschooling is dangerous, and should be treated as such.

What makes it such a heavy undertaking? It’s not the fact that your kids may not learn how to hold their pencils correctly, or might miss out on the character-building experience of being picked last for a game of dodgeball. It’s not that you’re categorically unqualified to teach reading, or that putting Jesus in your kid’s science book might cost him a couple of points on his SATs.

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